Marital Conflicts and the Resolutions

Our marriage is in genius of the most critical moments of our lives in feature it is between a stir and a hard place. It has now been sextet years since we got married in single of the most colorful perform weddings I watch ever witnessed.It is non that we stir non gone through somewhat minor conflicts previously, alone at to the lowest degree we were able to resolve them immediately by counselors, friends, our pastors and ourselves.The previous disagreements had to do with our monthly spending, shove from our parents, measure to arrive home and our cream of friends among opposite issues. At present, things work escalated from existence bad to worse, with no signs of a realistic solution at the horizon.Before we got married, I had vividly known that my fiance at that time was a committed Seventh mean solar day Adventist though I am a member of the Assemblies of God Church, an evangelical concourseing of the Protestant church service.Our parents, friends and t he best couple had asked us if we foresaw both future collision since our churches doctrines were assorted our answer then was a large-mouthed no. We believed that our love for each other would conquer any disputes that would arise in our marriage.My wifes father is a actu altogethery staunch Adventist in fact, one of the senior elders at the local church and had never had the thought that any of his 5 children would ever desert the church which he helped found an action that do him frame respected in the entire locality. My wife loves his father so much and therefrom has no intent of betraying him.Being an evangelical, a born(p) again Christian and the head of my family, I am not comfortable with the creative thinker of having a divided family with my wife go to church on Saturday making her not attend to her domestic and marital duties from 6 in the morning to six in the evening (according to their beliefs). On the other hand, I attend church services on Sundays and other fellowships on the weekdays.The conflict is arising from the fact that we do not agree in very many issues that pertain to the unalike doctrines that the both groups advocate for. My wife does not eat pork or any related products she does not take either tea or coffee for to her both are drugs, classifying them in the same group with tobacco or marijuana.My wife and I are both civil servants, my wife working with the department of Education and I as an army officer though at the moment I am on the study leave enrolled in the University in an undergraduate program.We have two daughters, Shari and Shako aged five and triplet respectively. It is our obligation as parents to bring them up in a way that is near so that they can become vast members of the society. What makes me uncomfortable about our religious differences is because our wee children look confused (especially the elder one). sometimes they go to church on Saturdays and on Sundays to their mothers and fathers churches respectively.The older daughter has severally asked me why I do not go to their mothers church and she has, I suppose, asked her mum a similar question. She has made me understand that her friends usually go to church with their both parents and looking at her uneasy face, it is obvious that she will be very happy if we would start doing the same.My greatest appetency is for us to attend the same church for the sake of our unity and our children. Since I have never thought of myself becoming an Adventist and have always regarded myself incompatible with their doctrines (that I reclaim very conservative) and because our church is a fight liberal, I have severally suggested that we tell apart a neutral church where we would all be attending together with our children but she has categorically stated that this would only lapse over her dead body. This emphatically explains why I am a stressed man.